What?! Another pick-up website??

And this would be a very legitimate question indeed, my dear reader. The World Wide Web is currently clogged by material revolving around the modern intersexual dynamics, and just by looking at the sheer volume of resources available online on that subject, one can quickly get an idea that something is not quite right. Because if things were right, there would be no need talk so extensively about it.

Let’s take an example: when did you last heard about a bootcamp to help you better shop at the supermarket? If you are like me, the answer is “never”. And this would be perfectly normal: why on earth would someone need to hire a coach to perform such a basic task like going to the supermarket and getting some groceries?! Now it must be said that in our wonderful Information Age, where there seem to be a guide for everything and a blog on everything, such a service may even exist, and maybe it’s being marketed as “how to experience a stress-free shopping experience”, or possibly “how to optimise time and cost of your shopping routine”, or even “how to reduce the carbon footprint of your shopping cart”. But even if such a service existed indeed, it would be not in response to a primary need, rather the result of a society where people have nothing bigger to worry about.

Now someone could argue: “sure, there are no bootcamps to help people better shop for groceries while there are bootcamps to teach guys how to talk to girls, but shopping for groceries depends pretty much just on you, other people’s approval is not needed to be successful there, hence this comparison is not valid”.

Fair enough, let’s take another example, let’s consider job hunting. Surely finding a job is a primary need, and surely there is a demand for agencies acting like intermediaries, for coaches to help you improve your interview skills, for websites to share their “wisdom” through articles such as, “10 tips to impress your recruiter”, for books to hone your skills, and so on and so forth. And this means that the resources available to job applicants can somehow relate to the resources available to aspiring seducers. Let’s look at the dynamics of the job market now: most applicants still manage to find a job if they really want to, and maybe it’s not their dream job, but at least they get to pay the bills at the end of the month; conversely, some recruiters may struggle to find the exact profile they are looking for straight away, and maybe they will find it eventually, but otherwise they will just hire someone that looks promising and will make him/her acquire the necessary skills through internal training. Moving on, some people hand over their resignation letter to the company so that they can pursue new job opportunities, while at the same time some companies hand over their dismissal letters to the unfortunate employees because their services are no longer required.

Without going too deep in the analysis, let’s just say that there are quite a lot of similarities between the job marketplace and the sexual marketplace, but there are also some key differences: the Western dating/relationship scene has elements of tension, bitterness and hostility that the equivalent job hunting/recruitment scene clearly lacks; and while the latter may not be perfect but at least works, in the former something seems to have gone terribly wrong. 

And the reason for these key differences is that the modern intersexual dynamics in the Western world are quite simply fucked-up! (excuse my French)

Simple as that.

Looking at things from men’s perspective only, this situation has led to an exponential increase of resources available to help men navigating the Sexual Market Place, and of virtual areas where men can gather to discuss, advise, seek help, complain, protest.

On one side we have countless dating coaches offering their services through phone coaching, bootcamps, books, videos, podcasts and so on.

On another side we have aspiring seducers congregating in forums to share techniques and advice on how to be more successful with the opposite sex.

Then we have gatherings of men that have had enough of women and want nothing to do with them ever again.

Then we have congregations of men that would like to have some action with women but find themselves cut out of the equation.

And so on and so forth.

And finally, we have blogs of people who want to share their opinions on the modern SMP and/or their journey in it, and prefer to do so in a more structured way (i.e. in a dedicated blog) rather than in a forum. At one end of the spectrum there are authors who take a very theoretical approach and describe the macro-level intersexual dynamics with the same rigour you can find in a book on Subsonic Aerodynamics. At the other end of the spectrum there are authors that focus on sharing lay reports and dating adventures only. And there is nothing wrong with any of that, of course, since we all see things from different angles and through different eyes. 

In my case, I prefer to take more of a pragmatic micro-level approach rather than a theorical macro-level one, and I’m planning to share more of my first-hand learnings and observations, and less of my detailed adventures.

As of now, the posts are going be organised into four categories:

Out of the matrix: macro-level reflections on the status of the SMP and their micro-level effects.

Building you aura: some tips to maximise female attention.

Using your aura: my experience in converting (or at least attempting to) female attention into something more tangible.

Diary: observations from some of my experiences.


The Essentials:
• Fundamentals