Category: Out of the matrix

Earlier on today, while I was writing the guide on Looks [1], I kept thinking of the “no affiliate links in here” post, and I felt compelled to add a couple of sentences in there to clarify an important point. Because here in the blog, as in my real life, I come on strong with my own opinions. Continue reading “I’m not taking a shot at you”

While I was writing the guide on Looks, in which I specifically mention some of the products I use, I briefly considered whether or not use affiliate links. That though only lasted a fraction of a second, and I immediately kicked it out of my mind for two simple reasons. Continue reading “No affiliate links in here”

This post is a momentary deviation from our journey, but still, we all get briefly side-tracked in life. And I got side-tracked from writing the guide on Looks this morning, while I was stuck in traffic, and I kept thinking about the Effort vs. Result post. All that thinking made me realised two things. Continue reading “Gold Diggers & Co.”

Let me kick off this post starting from the conclusion: if you live in the Western world and you don’t legitimately look like a male model, or at the very least like the newly created figure of the “male instagram model” [1], then don’t even bother with online dating (and by the way, deluding yourself into thinking that you look like that doesn’t count). And let me follow-up with a promise: this will be my last post on Western world online dating before moving on to some more productive topics. Continue reading “Women show us how they use Tinder”

Newly single in summer 2017, I quickly realised that during the six years I spent in a relationship quite a few things had appeared on the market: on one side a bunch of dating apps led by Tinder, on the other side a variety of “social” platforms the most deleterious of which was certainly Instagram. Continue reading “Understanding women: after online dating”

I grew up in a very traditional and loving family, and since when I was a little kid, I was taught to follow the rules and behave respectfully towards others, and I was urged to study hard, get high grades at school, and do sport. Long story short I was raised to be your typical nice guy, and the happy ending of this journey was always implied along the way: you will graduate with very high grades so that you will find a very good job (that has happened), and you will meet a caring woman who will become your loving wife and with whom you will start a family and live happily ever after. Too bad that by the time I finished the university and got a job that sort of mindset about marriage and family was outdated by at least 20 years… Continue reading “Understanding women: before online dating”

And this would be a very legitimate question indeed, my friend. The World Wide Web is currently clogged by material revolving around the modern men-to-women dynamics, and just looking at the sheer volume of resources available on that subject, one can quickly have an idea that something is not quite right. Because if things were right, there would be no need talk so extensively about it. Continue reading “What?! Another pick-up website??”