The importance of understanding body language

Introducing a new dimension in your reality

Roughly ten years ago, for reasons that had nothing to do with girls, I decided to learn the art of reading body language. At the time I was thinking of going into management consulting, and I thought that kind of skill could have been useful in my toolkit. In the end I did not become a management consultant, but I developed a new and invaluable skill: the ability to understand people’s feelings and emotions without them saying anything. Continue reading “The importance of understanding body language”

What is High Value?

Simply put, High Value is what gets people to notice you and remember you. It is what gets you a constant stream of attention throughout the day, is what gets people to be kinder to you and treat you better [1] [2], is what gets a sales assistant to remember the model of trousers you bought when you last visited the shop one year before, is what gets someone you asked how many reps they have left with the dumbbells to bring them to you all happy and smiley when they are finished with them, you get the idea. High Value is what to aim for.

So, the next question is, how do you develop High Value? Continue reading “What is High Value?”

Women show us how they use Tinder

Thanks for that, much appreciated

Let me kick off this post starting from the conclusion: if you live in the Western world and you don’t legitimately look like a male model, or at the very least like the newly created figure of the “male instagram model” [1], then don’t even bother with online dating (and by the way, deluding yourself into thinking that you look like that doesn’t count). And let me follow-up with a promise: this will be my last post on Western world online dating before moving on to some more productive topics. Continue reading “Women show us how they use Tinder”

Understanding women: after online dating

Newly single in summer 2017, I quickly realised that during the six years I spent in a relationship quite a few things had appeared on the market: on one side a bunch of dating apps led by Tinder, on the other side a variety of “social” platforms the most deleterious of which was certainly Instagram. Continue reading “Understanding women: after online dating”

Understanding women: before online dating

I grew up in a very traditional and loving family, and since when I was a little kid, I was taught to follow the rules and behave respectfully towards others, and I was urged to study hard, get high grades at school, and do sport. Long story short I was raised to be your typical nice guy, and the happy ending of this journey was always implied along the way: you will graduate with very high grades so that you will find a very good job (that has happened), and you will meet a caring woman who will become your loving wife and with whom you will start a family and live happily ever after. Too bad that by the time I finished the university and got a job that sort of mindset about marriage and family was outdated by at least 20 years… Continue reading “Understanding women: before online dating”

What?! Another pick-up website??

And this would be a very legitimate question indeed, my friend. The World Wide Web is currently clogged by material revolving around the modern men-to-women dynamics, and just looking at the sheer volume of resources available on that subject, one can quickly have an idea that something is not quite right. Because if things were right, there would be no need talk so extensively about it. Continue reading “What?! Another pick-up website??”